tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post1357413306229829035..comments2023-06-02T05:14:48.390-04:00Comments on Bits and Pieces From My Life: Sibling Rivalry and UnkindnessKristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152562871467319771noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-31232846221096038592013-03-08T00:16:51.020-05:002013-03-08T00:16:51.020-05:00This is such a good post...filled with Godly wisdo...This is such a good post...filled with Godly wisdom and grace. You will never, <i>never</i> be sorry that you taught your children to walk in kindness. <br /><br />It grieves me when I see children be allowed to speak unkindly to one another or to hit and smack one another. How can God's presence be felt in a home in which unkindness is allowed to rule? Cheryl https://www.blogger.com/profile/00063844335185525553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-75405677800139087032013-03-07T19:05:21.019-05:002013-03-07T19:05:21.019-05:00We address this issue much like you do. We have a ...We address this issue much like you do. We have a no tolerance policy for unkindness towards siblings. It can get tricky wanting our children to always be best friends, but that just isn't reality. <br /><br />We try to create opportunities for them to have fun together to build relationships, but it is also completely natural that personalities and interests will make some siblings closer than others. That doesn't mean they don't love each other and stick up for each other though.<br /><br />I think that by forcing siblings to play together parents can actually cause resentment among their children. If I was forced to invite someone to my house over and over, it definitely wouldn't make me like that person more. <br /><br />There is certainly a balance between working to build common bonds and forcing children to play together. Thank goodness for God's guidance and grace for when we fail.Tim, Allyson, and kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02783456001791140306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-42154554184105269952013-03-07T16:29:13.572-05:002013-03-07T16:29:13.572-05:00Thank you for answering my question! My daugher&#...Thank you for answering my question! My daugher's behavior is a work in progress and , but aren't we all?Sunshine and Spoonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15218542467607737336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-89154574152448190242013-03-07T13:29:28.142-05:002013-03-07T13:29:28.142-05:00I like your approach! My oldest daughter (five to...I like your approach! My oldest daughter (five today) sometimes decides to be mean just because, and often to her younger brother. Whether it's hitting, pushing, toy taking or yelling, she can be something terrible. One other thing I do (in addition to what you said) is work with my children about what it means to love one another. We memorized Scripture about it, talk about loving our neighbors and who that means (our siblings and everyone else), and talk about we can show Jesus how much we love Him by showing love to others. Usually we talk about ways she can show her brothers love (and in turn Jesus) and she usually leaves the conversation excited to show love to them by sharing or some other thing. At least until the next time (sometimes within the hour!)Babychaserhttp://www.babychaser.comnoreply@blogger.com