tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post2983416507824389408..comments2023-06-02T05:14:48.390-04:00Comments on Bits and Pieces From My Life: How Do You...Handle Whining?Kristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152562871467319771noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-30145217619610827852012-06-02T10:41:21.439-04:002012-06-02T10:41:21.439-04:00I pretty much deal with it the same way you do. W...I pretty much deal with it the same way you do. Whining about my answer will absolutely not make me change my mind, but it earn the child a discipline. If they try to ask me something in a whiny tone, I simply tell them that I can't hear them talking when they use their whiny voice and they usually switch back to a regular voice pretty quickly. If the whining is consistent throughout the day, I tell them to "put their whiny voice away." and they will pretend to take it out of their throat and throw it in the garbage (my 4 year old daughter pretends to eat it).Hannahhttp://www.supermommyornot.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-17469996301630779722012-05-31T20:34:31.643-04:002012-05-31T20:34:31.643-04:00Thanks for sharing! Our biggest whiners go a step...Thanks for sharing! Our biggest whiners go a step further and truly fall apart about things. Some days I'm at a loss. We try to have a zero tolerance policy. I'll have to try your approach!~Babychaser~https://www.blogger.com/profile/12789794457673145109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-73164348829000630922012-05-31T14:23:56.835-04:002012-05-31T14:23:56.835-04:00We just discovered that my oldest son has a mild c...We just discovered that my oldest son has a mild case of Asperger's. This shows up a lot when he kind of dissolves into a heap of whines and "I can't do it!"s. It really bothered me a lot, but finding out there was a reason for it has helped. It also helped to have the psychologist talk about walking him through it. I think often our kids don't know a better way to express their disappointment. We've tried giving him other ways of saying it, but we always start with, "You have to use your nice voice or I just can't help you." Once you get past that stage, you move on to "now what do you want again?" When he gives me an answer in his calm voice, I either help him achieve that or explain to him why he can't have that right then. Sometimes walking them through it can help them come up with a better way to communicate, whether there's a "disability" or not. I've been trying to use it with my oldest (who is just whiny!) and it's been helping her as well.M Mommy to 4https://www.blogger.com/profile/03737375508717572489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-4030442214051828212012-05-31T13:06:35.546-04:002012-05-31T13:06:35.546-04:00So far we seem to have only one major whiner. We d...So far we seem to have only one major whiner. We deal with it the same way you do, but I can't figure out why we think slacking for a time will work out...it never does :(Tim, Allyson, and kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02783456001791140306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1378562155896437704.post-80591817395974139172012-05-31T09:22:20.163-04:002012-05-31T09:22:20.163-04:00Oh, I totally agree with you about some children (...Oh, I totally agree with you about some children (and big people?) having more of a tendency toward whining! (Exactly one-half of my own children had this tendency.) And I also agree that the only way to help the child overcome it is the zero-tolerence policy...which is painful for the child <i>and</i> the parents, but so worth it. After all, who can enjoy the company of a whiny kid...or adult?Cheryl https://www.blogger.com/profile/00063844335185525553noreply@blogger.com